Healing happens when you allow yourself to feel, reflect, and grow.
Victoria Counsellor - Noel Morton | Chat with me
Invest in your relationship with yourself
I believe we can lose connection to ourselves as children in order for survival. As children, if our needs are not met, we tend to develop a persona in order to be accepted or loved. This not to parent shame, most parents love their kids and did they best they could with the tools they had at the time. Unfortunately, these brilliant coping strategies become maladaptive patterns as we become adults. As we age, many of us suppress our own authenticity in order to preserve the attachment to the people we love the most. This looks like codependency, self abandonment, and feeling dysregulated emotionally much of the time. Many of these patterns live unconsciously in the nervous system (fight/flight or freeze responses) and somatic therapy directly on noticing these patterns. This can be extremely effective, brings them to the surface and giving us the ability to make permanent change.
Improve your relationship with others
People often feel stuck in relationship to themselves and others, often losing themselves and acting out in anger, fear, or grief as way to protect them. This lead to rupture in their closest relationships and often feeling shame, guilt, or regret afterwards. This is due to fight, flight, or freeze of survival states and you can only see through a lens of disconnection and things feel unstable and unsafe. This is a normal reaction and there is nothing wrong with you. These patterns while continue to play out, unless we can develop self awareness, take accountability and take personal responsibility to do things differently. I support my clients by understanding this setup and offering compassionate curiosity to uncover their needs in moving forward. By learning how to feel all emotions, we can hold ourselves in a different way.
